I don’t know about y’all, but hearing about the recent suicides of Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain rocked me in a way that hearing about previous celebrity suicides hadn’t. It reminds me of friends I’ve lost to suicide, and it scares me because research tells us that, with things like suicide, there are always copycats.

Many of my friends and clients are big-hearted, high-achievers who feel deeply and are prone to taking on more and more responsibility in order to help others. They see the world’s inequities and are driven to make the world a better place– even if it comes at their own expense.

In my heart, I believe it’s okay–even admirable–to want to positively impact the world. But things become problematic when you push your own mental, emotional and spiritual health to the back burner.

Making a difference isn’t all about photo ops and presenting big checks. The process can be slow, challenging and, sometimes, even painful. Without people you can trust and lean on and without solid practices in place–like exercise and gratitude–it can be easy to feel overwhelmed or get discouraged. I know. I’ve been there.

I also know that if you’re reading this, if you’re privileged enough to have a phone or internet connection–which not everyone does–then you don’t need to go it alone.

You’ve probably already seen this a million times this week, but it’s worth posting again: If you or anyone you now needs help, please reach out to:

  • National Suicide Prevention Hotline US: 1-800-273-8255 or UK: 116 123
  • SpeakingofSuicide.com/resources
  • Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741 (US) and Text HOME to 686868 (Canada.)

Recently, I read a fabulous memoir by Matt Haig, author of The Humans, about what it feels like to live with severe anxiety and depression, what he’s done to cope, and how he’s now on the “other side” of it. The book is called Reasons to Stay Alive; I highly recommend it.


Much love,